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Notes on The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

11/9/2016

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I heard from Ryan Holiday in his latest newsletter about The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson. I thought the title was humorous, and I didn't think the book would be that serious. However, it turned out to cover several serious and useful topics like Stoicism and finding out your true values in life.

The point of the book is not about being indifferent or not caring about anything; the point is to only care about the very small number of things that really matter to you (core values) and not sweating the small stuff about anything else. I liked how the chapter titles and main messages were very much contrarian to typical positive-thinking psychology stuff out there. I also identified a lot with the concepts of realizing how much you suck and aren't special and how constant learning and growth and failure is part of life ("you're wrong throughout your life because you're always growing and learning... just trying to be less wrong each day than before").

​1 don't try
Wanting positive experience is a negative experience. Accepting negative experience is a positive experience. 
Backwards law
Only focus on the true important things
Subtlety 1: not about being indifferent. It's being ok being different. Willingness to stare failure in face. Fuck it to everything unimportant in life. 
Subtlety 2: first find what to give a fuck about. Find something meaningful. 
Subtlety 3: you're always choosing what to give fuck about

2 happiness is a problem 
Life itself has suffering. Pain and failure inherent. 
Disappointment panda. Tell truths hardest to hear. Suffering biologically useful. 
Problems never go away. Solution of one creates another. 
Happiness comes from solving problems not eliminating
Emotions are overrated. Biological signals to nudge you. Question them. 
Hedonic treadmill. Everything involves sacrifice. 
Choose what pain u want to deal with because every path has it. 
Joy is not in summit but climb itself

3 you are not special
Entitlement 
Things fall apart
Not that great and not that horrible
Ordinary things are what actually matter

4 value of suffering
Self awareness onion
1 Actually know own emotions 
2 Ability to ask why
3 Personal values
Values determine ur problems
Good values are reality based and controllable
5 major values
Responsibility 
Uncertainty
Failure
Rejection
Contemplation of own mortality

5 you are always choosing
You are responsible for the problem
You choose how to respond to events
Fault is past tense. Responsibility is present tense. U always get to choose. 
Not about cards u r dealt but choices u make

6 ur wrong about everything but so am I
Wrong throughout ur life because always growing and learning
Just trying to be less wrong each day than before
Testing ur beliefs is scary
Certainty enemy of growth
Ppl find patterns in randomness and believe they r right
False memories 
Tend to Avoid opportunities that threaten to change ur view of self or identity
See yourself in simple identity not in narrow unique way. 
Be less certain of self. What if I'm wrong? What would it mean if I'm wrong? Would being wrong create worse or better problem?
Much more likely ur screwed up than everyone else

7 failure is way forward
Just do something
Action can be cause of motivation

8 importance of saying no
Rejection makes ur life better

9 and then u die
What will u leave after ur gone
Nothing to be afraid of
Accept own death

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Cameron
10/30/2017 09:11:51 am

Thanks! Really appreciate it Max!

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