Tim Ferriss has constantly been mentioning The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, and it was on my reading list for a while, and now I finally had a chance to read it.
It started off kind of dry and folksy, and I didn't know what all the fuss was about, but as I got into it, I realized how much timeless wisdom and good advice there was collected in these pages for all areas of life. The book reminded me a lot of How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, another classic on similar subjects. The title of the book made me think this would be all about exponential and 10X thinking and creativity, but in fact it was just about how to succeed in life, be effective at your work, and be a good human being throughout. I ended up enjoying it a lot.
Thinking affects success
1 believe u can succeed and u will
Doubt is negative power
Believe ur among the best
Remind yourself you are better than you think you are. Never sell yourself short.
2 cure yourself of excuseitis, the failure disease
Refuse to talk about your health
Refuse to worry about your health
Be genuinely Grateful you are as healthy as you are
Remind self often it’s Better to wear out than rust out
The Thinking you do is more important than the brain you have
Interest and enthusiasm more important
Amount of knowledge excuse
Use mind to think not as warehouse for facts
Knowing how to get facts more important than having them
Never underestimate own intelligence or overestimate others
Remind self that attitude more important than intelligence
Ability to think more important than facts
Look at present age positively
Compute how many productive years remaining
Invest future time in doing what u want to do
Bad luck excuses
Accept law of cause and effect
Don't be wishful thinker
Success comes from hard work
3 build confidence and destroy fear
Action cures fear
Deposit positive thoughts in memory bank
Withdraw only positive thoughts from memory bank
Realize other ppl are like u and mutually important
Develop an understanding attitude
Underneath he's probably a nice guy. Most folks are.
To think confidently, act confidently
Motions are the precursor to emotions
Be a front seater in lectures. Sit in front row.
Practice making eye contact
Walk 25% faster
Practice speaking up. Say something at each event u attend.
4 how to think big
Self deprecation or selling self short bad
Determine your 5 chief assets
Use big positive cheerful words for how u r or about others
Use positive words to outline plans
See what can be not what is
Practice adding value to things and people and self by visualizing
Ask self is it really important before starting conflict
Keep eyes focused on big objective
5 think and dream creatively
Believe it can be done
When u believe ur mind finds ways to do it
Eliminate the word impossible
Make list of reasons why u can do the thing u thought impossible
Become receptive to new ideas
Be an experimental person
Be progressive not regressive or traditional
Progress is most important product
Write ideas weekly for how to improve in each important area
Eagerly accept opportunity to do more
If u want it done give it to the busy man
Listen more than give advice
Encourage others to talk in meetings
Test own views with questions
Concentrate on what other says
Join and meet regularly with professional group in your area
Join and participate in at least one group outside your profession
Don't let ideas escape. Write down.
Review ideas regularly
Cultivate and research ideas
6 you are what u think u r
You receive the treatment u think u deserve
Think u r important
Your appearance matters
Dress sharp to think sharp
Pay twice as much and buy half as many
Think ur work is important
Give self pep talk daily
Practice uplifting self praise
Everyday resell yourself on yourself
Personalized commercial about self. Say it to self daily.
Success comes from managed thinking
Would most important person worry about this
7 manage your environment. Go first class.
Big men do not laugh at big ideas
Change company u keep
Ask for advice from top people
Home situation affects performance
Mix with people different from u
Circulate in new groups
Select friends with different views
Select friends interested in positive things
Go with first class vendors
Make your environment make u successful
8 make your attitudes your allies
Attitudes shine through your words and expressions
3 attitudes: I'm activated, ur important, service first
Must first be enthusiastic yourself
Dig into things deeper
Life up everything you do. Handshake. Smile. Talk.
Make little people feel like big people
Make big people feel bigger
Always use titles with others
Do something special for family and spouse
Do more than others expect
9 think right towards people
U depend on others for success
Learn to remember names
Be a comfortable person so no strain in being with u. Old shoe
Be relaxed easy going so things don't ruffle u
Don't be egotistical or know it all
Be interesting for others
Get scratchy elements of personality out
Reconcile past grievances
Practice liking people
Always congratulate or express sympathy
Give spiritual strength to ppl
Most important person is the one who introduces himself most and builds more friendships
Be sure other person gets your name right and u got his and know how to spell so write it down
Drop personal note to new friends u want to know better
Say pleasant things to strangers
No person all good or bad
Think of positive qualities of others
U decide whether ur listening to ur positive or negative mental channel
Switch topics when others negative or leave
Really like the customer. Find reasons to like the prospect. He will reciprocate.
What can I do to do better at next opportunity
Encourage others to talk
10 get the action habit
Don't wait until conditions perfect to start action
Meet problems and obstacles as they arise
Cross bridges when u come to them
Use action cure fear and gain confidence
Only cure for stage fright is action
Most good ideas come from starting action
Use mechanical way accomplish unpleasant tasks. Just start mechanically without deliberating
Use mechanical way to create ideas. Move spirit. Use pencil and paper. Writing on paper writes on your mind.
Now is magic word for success
Get the speak up habit
Stop trying to get ready. Just get going.
11 turn defeat into victory
Salvage something from every setback
Don't blame others or luck
Believe solutions are possible
Back off to stay fresh
12 use goals to help you grow
Long run goals
Visualize future in work home and social
Image of self in 10 years
Goal works itself into ur subconscious mind
Just concentrate on the one next step not the entire journey
30 day improvement guide. Habits to break and acquire.
Take detours in stride
Invest in yourself
13 how to think like a leader
Trade minds with people u want to influence
Think what is the human way to handle this
Think believe and push for progress
Take time out to confer with self. 30 min daily to be by yourself.
Imagine exchanging places with ppl u want to influence
Treat people around u better. Talk in private. Praise their work. Explain how can do better and repraise their work.
Help people when laying them off.
think improvements and high standards in everything you do
One of the methods for introducing babies to solid food is called "baby-led weaning," which just refers to babies controlling the process of eating by feeding themselves with their fingers rather than being spoon-fed purees. This method seemed logical to me, so to learn more, I read the official manual on it, Baby-Led Weaning: The Essential Guide to Introducing Solid Foods-and Helping Your Baby to Grow Up a Happy and Confident Eater by Gill Rapley and Tracey Murkett.
It was a fast, practical, no-nonsense read, and I loved the many quotes from parents about their personal experience. It's interesting to me how trying to teach good food habits to a baby should make the adults around him improve their own nutrition (since babies tend to copy everything).
My notes below skip over a lot of the detailed lists of foods and mini-recipes as well as some introductory stuff from the beginning of the book.
Less gagging because gag reflex triggered near front of mouth then moves to back over time so earlier they learn to gag the better
Spoon feeding sucks to back of mouth without gagging or chewing
Ability to move food to back of throat for swallowing (or accidental choking) only develops after they know how to chew and move food around
Rice cereal not nutritious
Should eat whenever we eat
Just sit on lap and let eat from our plates. Will encourage us to eat healthy.
Sit vertically. Adjust high chair back and tray level or towel under butt so he sits higher or bring high chair under main table.
Initially all food should fall out of mouth until 8-10 months when actually will swallow.
Will spend more time chewing and mouthing then with spoon so will digest better
Let explore and play with food when not hungry
Give cup and spoon to play with at mealtime before ready
Filling up on foods that are less nutritious bad for breastfeeding and nutrition
Small things can't even be picked up until pincer grip developed at 9 months so won't choke on those because can't even pick up
Sticks or fingers of food 2" long: half to hold and half to munch
Broccoli ideal first food because has handle
Handle part of food needs to be able to be gripped with closed hand
Wash baby hands before feeding
Offer stick shapes for playing
Veggies shouldn't be too soft or will be like mush or too hard or else can't gnaw
Hands off approach better. Don't put food in his mouth. Just offer on tray.
Put baby food on plate that has been in fridge for half an hour so it cools down the hot fresh heated food faster
Offer 3-4 different things to start with: carrot, broccoli, strip of meat. Refill 1-2 pieces at a time.
Ignore whether eats of not
Forget having clean plate or finishing all food in front of u
Better to share our food than prepare special food
Describe food and colors as eating
Don't try to help him eat. He wants to get it himself.
Frustration not a sign that hungry or needs help. It's because don't have all skills they want to have.
Takes a lot of time initially. 40 min for a meal to learn and practice skills over and over again. Pacing self allows to learn when full too.
Standing back and letting baby explore may be hardest part. Trust him and not interfere.
Try not to pay too much attention or watch every bite. Quiet support enough.
Baby shouldn't be only one eating. Always eats with at least one other person. Lunch easiest meal to start with.
Treat with same respect as other meal companions. Don't tell how much to eat. Don't wipe face constantly or do any washing up while still eating.
Aim to eat same food as baby.
No need to praise or scold for eating or not to direct learning. Just share in his enjoyment.
Will miss mouth completely first few days.
Be relaxed when he drops food to ground. Doesn't matter. Mess will get less when discovers more about eating.
Ok for him to sit on our lap and eat. Later can do high chair.
Think of mealtimes as play times in beginning
Offer a variety of foods throughout the week so can choose. Experiments show babies will choose varied and healthy diet naturally.
Important to practice feeding before need much food so better to do BLW from beginning instead of spoon feeding first.
Plain steamed veggies or fruit
If no family history of allergies then can offer any foods
Eggs after 6 mo
Animal milks ok In cereal
Low or no salt
Low or No sugar
Wide variety of foods reduces allergies
Babies need lots of healthy fat like nondairy animal fats like vegetable oils, oily fish, olive oil
Full fat cheese and yogurt
don't stick with just one taste at a time. Offer variety and let baby choose over the course of a week. Will end up avoiding foods he is allergic to.
No mesh feeders
Can give cows milk but use it as food and part of cooking not as a drink
Always include variety of food including meat and meat products so baby can choose what he needs for iron and vitamins
Offer meat in different forms including ground. Chicken drumstick. Slices of meat stewed. Lentils.
Offer foods with vitamin c to help absorb iron
5 after the early days
Can't teach anything. Need to sit back and watch him learn.
No need for bland or single taste foods. Babies used to strong flavors and variety of flavors from mothers milk which changes flavor based on moms food.
Crunchy textures are naturally fun and missed out on with purées
Use dippers like toast or rice cake to eat runny food like yogurt
Normal to not eat anything for 3 days and then eat a lot for 3 days
Baby finds way to communicate that ate enough. Throws food on floor. Turns head. Hand food to parents.
Might eat one thing only for a few days then more variety later. It is the baby regulating what its body needs and will pass.
Relax about any food fads
Start with fork because easier than spoon
Learning how to use a dipper like a breadstick or carrot with soft foods like hummus or yogurt helps baby learn to use spoon later
can hand baby loaded spoon to show works
Food will fall off silverware many times before mastered
Try not to help him too much
Set a place for baby with spoon and fork so he can use when he joins u at the table later and can play with for now
Will play with wanting to feed the adults or for u to feed him but just a game
Better to practice with real cups at home even if messiest
Slanted cups: don't need to be tipped as much and show baby what's inside
Full cup easier to start with than half full since doesn't need to be tipped as far
Allow baby to practice pouring games in bathtub or sink to learn how cup works
Babies not allowed to play or experiment with food behave worse at table when older
Inclusion in family mealtimes teaches them how to behave
We are the role models so be reliable
No need to praise for behaving well or scold for bad behavior. Babies have natural desire to copy others and do what is expected of them. Simply trust to behave well.
Just share same food
Ask for child or appetizer sized portion of adult dish or extra plate to share yours
Tapas and mediterranean appetizers good finger foods to share
No need to only go to places with kids menu. Just normal healthy adult food.
Take him for a walk around restaurant or outside to explore while waiting for food
Order child meal as soon as u can so comes out as quickly as possible so has more time to eat
Delay sitting child at table until meal close to arriving. Take for walk.
Take small toys and coloring book and crayons
Check food and plate not too hot. Ask waiter to set in middle of table so u can check before kid grabs food.
Let child feed self and don't make overeat just because paying for it
Take along own cup. Also teach to drink from straw.
Take own set of utensils to use or play with
Take own splash mat
Let kids serve selves from serving trays so they get only what they want to eat. U can help with the serving spoons.
He will copy what u do so watch how u use salt or sauce
Start with salads and cold dishes to practice
Keep containers of healthy snacks and fruit bowl in kitchen so kids can help selves to them
Teach him to sit down and eat his snack with u
No unhealthy snacks in the house
Cookie every once in a while fine. And making things forbidden will make more desirable. Can share dessert with u.
Bribes rewards and punishments
Linking food to behavior rather than appetite will distort his attitude to food and management of his behavior long term
If give sweets then child will associate them with good behavior and expect them
Will also think of sweets as better than other foods and want more
No statements like if you eat your carrots we can go to playground because will think veggies are second rate foods and be suspicious of them
Food and comfort
Don't give sweet treats to cheer up
Sweets can risk becoming just a bribe to stop crying which you don't want
Cuddle and kiss better
Can make kids more prone to seeking sweets when feel miserable
Avoiding emotional battleground
No battles if parent trusts child's appetite
18 month old doesn't need more food than 9 month old. Growing much slower now.
Don't fill up on milk juice or non nutritious snacks between meals
Need to tell grandparents all these things about food and trusting child appetite and not convincing to eat more or giving rewards
Clean plate forget
Care provider instructions
Don't offer solid food when baby hungry for a milk feeding
No need to put food in his hand or pieces in his mouth
Just let him sit and explore on own
Doesn't matter how much he eats
Give plenty of time for him to play
Baby should be in full control over what goes in his mouth
If u try to persuade baby too early to like food and Rush BLW then can come to dislike it
7 a healthy diet for everyone
Babies know when ur having same food as them so makes u think twice about ur food
Offer something from each of main food groups every day
Babies need more fat than adults and less fiber
Baby sized portion is size of baby handful
Introduce variety into week menu each week and try new flavors and substitutes for what used to
Junk food and sugary food only a couple of times a week
Can bake own healthier desserts too with less sugar and more fruit instead
Don't ban any foods or use as reward for good behavior or else will make more desirable
If U don't eat them everyday then ur child won't expect to either
Good iron: beans, lentil, peas, dried fruits like apricots figs and prunes and green leafy vegetables
Can drink diluted freshly squeezed juices for vitamin c
Toddlers eat more carbs and babies more fat
Maximizing Food you buy
Eat fruit and veggies with peel on (if organic)
Steam veggies rather than boil
Cut fruit just before eating
No high fiber foods like bran cereal for kid
Babies do need soluble fiber: oats, lentils, brown rice, peas, fruit
Avocados have lots of healthy fat
Two servings of fish per week
Spinach not as good source of iron
Tea stops iron absorption so don't give to kids
Nice dinner combo with all food and nutrient groups: grilled salmon with rice peas carrots and piece of fruit for dessert
The darker the olive oil the better for u
Whole grains like some pasta and brown rice and cereal have lots of insoluble fiber so shouldn't be given to babies at every meal
Breastfed baby used to being in control of feeding so won't want spoon feeding. Will push food out and hand spoon back to parent.
Sometimes spoon feeding will send mixed messages about how much we trust him
Better not to spoon feed at every meal
Won't get enough variety of texture and opportunity to develop his skills
Reserve spoon for certain foods like yogurt or to hand loaded spoon every now and then and let him decide whether to eat it
Don't distract while he's eating. Let him concentrate
Make all ur meals something baby can share
If overloaded tray with food, he will want to clear the deck so he can concentrate
By 7 months some babies barely started eating
Don't talk about some foods as his “favorites” or others he doesn't like. Don't make it sound permanent
Periods of eating less are normal especially during teething or a cold when using energy to fight it. Breastfeeding helps with teething.
Life changes affect appetite
Ok if skips food entirely for a couple days for no reason and then comes back
Offer a little food and let him ask for more if he wants it. Don't overload tray which can overwhelm him.
Babies often happier sitting on parents lap for first few weeks or months of solids
Don't stare at baby while he's eating
Don't force to sit at table for long periods when not interested in eating
Allow him to make as much of mess as wants
If not enjoying being at table try a picnic
Babies whose families have history of allergy are late starters in solids
Continue to include in meals even if not interested in it yet. Can take months even to 10 months old.
Baby putting on lots of weight is antiquated and wrong goal
Playing is baby's way of learning about how things work and developing new skills
Give freedom to spend as much time playing with food as possible
All that matters is if seems healthy and thriving and filling diapers. Amount eaten doesn't.